Showing posts with label bullying. Show all posts
Showing posts with label bullying. Show all posts

Tuesday, May 2, 2023

By Any Other Name

Perhaps it is because I experienced a small amount of peer-bullying as a student. Perhaps it is because I experienced a large amount of both physical and psychological abuse from my teachers, as did many of my fellow students. It was, after all, the Catholic school system, where mistreatment was frequently substituted for the message of love found in the Gospels. Whatever the reason, I ultimately emerged as an adult with much empathy for people being treated badly.

Today's post is about the recent disgraceful behaviour of adults claiming to be parents at a meeting of the York Catholic District School Board on the issue of range the Pride Flag. Here is a brief video  capturing some of the disruption that occurred:


This kind of ugly behaviour has no place in our society, and I am hardly alone in that sentiment. Today, I am taking what is for me the unprecedented step of reproducing in toto a Toronto Star editorial whose points I think most would find a hard time disagreeing with. That will be followed by two pieces expressing letter-writers' views on rabid homophobia. 

Make of all of it what you will:

A shameful scene unfolded recently outside a meeting of the York Catholic District School Board when adults purporting to protect Ontario’s children proved instead to be a direct threat to their well-being.

How else to describe a group of adults, many of them presumably parents of school-aged children, who turned up at the meeting to loudly oppose the possibility that the board will fly the rainbow flag in support of LGBTQ students in June?

How else to describe adults who appeared to hurl insults at those in favour of flying the flag? In a video clip shared widely by various news outlets, shouts of “shame” and “devil incarnate” were hurled at an advocate on the pro side of the flag debate. The scene became so tense police were called and security reportedly escorted some of the spectators away.

Some of these spectators may argue that their objection wasn’t specifically to the Pride flag itself but to what they believe it stands for: in their minds, the corrupting of children who are allegedly too young to learn in school about the diversity of gender and sexuality.

To this odious notion we say: no one is too young to learn that gay, transgender and non binary people exist, just as no one is too young to learn that cisgender, heterosexual people exist. Queer people are not by their mere existence sexually explicit.

 To meet a queer person, to learn what transgender means, to be read a picture book by a drag performer is in no way being exposed to the intimate details of a person’s sex life. This belief is not only nonsensical; it is derivative of hateful, age-old myths about queer people as a perverse influence on children.

It is also derivative of a certain brand of anti-LGBTQ politics we commonly associate with the United States. But if last week’s events at the Catholic school board in York Region teach us anything, let it be that Canada is not immune to public displays of hateful rhetoric. These displays may be less common here but even in small doses they are potent. And it is up to all of us — Catholic school board officials and community members alike not to be complacent in the face of them.

It seems a reminder is in order about why Pride celebrations are necessary in schools. Flying the Pride flag isn’t a hollow act of virtue signalling; it is an official declaration of support for marginalized kids who desperately need it.

 

Dispute at Catholic board meeting over Pride flagApril 27

The group of taxpayers of the York Region Catholic School Board, whose homophobic words and gestures reduced a group of LGBTQ students at the board meeting to tears, have surely provided a very good argument for defunding Catholic schools in the province.

Surely the promotion of such vicious and harmful hatred under the protection of acceptable religious teaching in Catholic schools should have no place in a publicly-funded school system in Ontario.

Joanna Manning, Toronto

When I read this article it reminded me of many of the vitriolic rants in American media that I have seen, directed at advocates of peaceful, progressive change.

What kind of adults would bully and belittle young students, especially those who have most likely experienced serious harangues for parts of their lives?

Because this was a Catholic school board I’m assuming these people consider themselves “Christian.” Outrage and horrible behaviour over the raising of a flag to show acceptance and respect for young people does clearly not reflect Christian beliefs.

These people should remember that Catholic education is paid for by all taxpayers and governments that condemn. this behaviour.

John Morton, Toronto

Hatred, intolerance and bigotry, by any other name, are still hatred, intolerance and bigoty. 


Saturday, February 29, 2020

A Tonic For The Spirit



The older and more resigned about the world I get, the more I need this kind of story.

I posted recently about Quaden Bayles, the young Australian lad who has dwarfism. At nine years old, he wanted to die due to the relentless bullying he has experienced in his young life. After his mother posted a deeply disturbing video about the bullying, the better angels of the world descended in full force, starting a gofundme page to send Quaden and his mother to Disneyland.

But the story doesn't end there.
The family of Quaden Bayles, an Australian boy with dwarfism seen crying and expressing a desire to kill himself in a social media video last week, has declined a trip to Disneyland following a GoFundMe campaign, saying it will donate the funds to charity instead.

"What kid wouldn't want to go to Disneyland, especially if you have lived Quaden's life. To escape to anywhere that is fun that doesn't remind him of his day to day challenges," Bayles' aunt Mundanara Bayles told Australia's NITV News on Thursday.

"But my sister said 'you know what, let's get back to the real issue'. This little fella has been bullied. How many suicides, black or white, in our society have happened due to bullying?" she added. "We want the money to go to community organizations that really need it. They know what the money should be spent on, so as much as we want to go to Disneyland, I think our community would far off benefit from that."
While I really think they should use a bit of the money to take the boy to Disneyland, his mother's heart is in the right, life-affirming place.
The family noted Dwarfism Awareness Australia and Balunu Healing Foundation as two organizations they would like to see benefit from the fund.

"We need to come together and work out how to make sure young people like Quaden don't have to deal with what they have been dealing with," Bayles said. "We've had seven kids at the Murri School in Brisbane, where I am on the board, take their lives in the last ten years."
In these dark days, I appreciate whatever rays of light I can catch.

Saturday, February 22, 2020

This Is Heartbreaking

... and believe me, I am not one easily moved. It is must-viewing for anyone who has ever bullied or been bullied, but it is very, very hard to watch:

Bullied boy's heartbreaking video sparks support - and suspicion

Hearts have been breaking across the internet over a viral Facebook Live video of Quaden Bayles, a nine-year-old Australian boy with dwarfism who tells his mother he'd rather die than endure the bullying he faces at school. "I want someone to kill me," Quaden says in the video, as he sits and cries out of an open car door.

Saturday, November 17, 2018

White Privilege On Steroids

While the Lord of the Flies criminality at St. Michael's College should upset everyone, especially the parents of students attending that prestigious institution, I find it telling that those same parents are blaming the media more than they are the school for these terrible events. Given that the tuition to this elite day school starts at $20,000, some moms, who no doubt are used to getting their way in most matters, seem to feel they should also have control over what the media reports:



I guess there are some things that even money can't buy.

Sunday, December 11, 2011

Bully for Him

It is probably largely due to both the verbal and physical abuse I suffered at the hands of my teachers as an elementary and high school student in the Catholic school system many years ago that I am so sensitive to abuses of authority, be it individual or institutional. I also suspect my experiences play a strong role in the visceral contempt I feel for the Harper government, so adept is it at wielding its power in ways so contrary to our democratic traditions and sense of fair play. Outside of that blanket contempt, however, I like to think that I am sufficiently critical as a thinker to recognize merit in the positions of those I do not support.

Readers of this blog will know that I have been consistently withering in my assessment of Dalton McGuinty, the Premier of Ontario, largely over his complicity in the abuse of authority that defined the G20 summit in Toronto in 2010. Nonetheless, I have to commend him for his strong and unequivocal stance against bullying in Ontario schools, even when that position treads on the toes of the religious right.

There is an interesting article well-worth reading on McGuinty written by Catherine Porter in today's Star that explains the roots of the Premier's antipathy toward bullying.

Pity, however, that his aversion to strongarm tactics didn't manifest itself in June of 2010 in Toronto.